CH'TI FETISH is committed to running kind events where everyone feels respected, heard and safe. Here is what we stand for, the associations that work with us, and the resources you can rely on — both at our events and in everyday life.
We host fetish nights because we love this community, its codes, its boldness. But a great fetish night isn't only a question of vibe and dress code: it is, above all, a setting where everyone can explore, have fun and meet people — without fearing judgement, harassment or discomfort. That's what we build, night after night.
No touch, no advance, no play without explicit consent — whatever the outfit, the attitude, or what you think you read. "No" and silence are refusals. Asking is never uncool.
We welcome the curious, the regulars, the beginners and the seasoned. Judgement (about bodies, fetishes or experience level) has no place. We're here to share, not to compare.
Inappropriate behaviour, verbal or physical assault, discriminatory language: immediate removal, no discussion. Every guest's emotional safety comes first.
Volunteers, organisers and partner associations are identifiable. You can talk to us before, during, after — to flag a situation or just chat. Everything stays confidential.
What happens at a meet stays between us. No photos, no public mention of people you've crossed paths with without their explicit agreement. Non-negotiable, so everyone can show up freely.
Every gender, every identity, every community, every body, every kink, every level of experience: our nights are open and inclusive. Your spot is here.
We don't do this alone. We rely on specialist associations that are present at our nights and that we work with year-round.
National Intervention Team for Prevention and Health for Businesses. Present at OBSESSION to inform on STIs, chemsex, testing and to redirect to free testing centres (CeGIDD).
Lille branch of the Order. On the ground with LGBTQI+ communities: fighting discrimination and internalised hate, HIV and STI prevention, listening to people in difficulty, and visibly celebrating our identities. Both rigorous and joyfully provocative.
An initiative that equips parties and festivals with a coloured wristband system to simply communicate physical-contact limits.
France's leading non-profit fighting HIV/AIDS and viral hepatitis. Present at OBSESSION and year-round: rapid HIV testing (TROD), PrEP information, supplies, support.
Do you run a prevention, listening, health or harm-reduction project that aligns with our values? We love partnering up. Drop us a line — we'll take the time to chat.
Contact us →Whether it's a question about substances, consent, chemsex, a bad experience or just wanting a chat — there are several channels. Everything stays confidential.
Send us a message via the contact form. We reply quickly and it stays between you and the organising team.
Contact form →Spot the volunteers wearing a wristband. You can also talk directly to a team member (identifiable badge).
See the calendar →The associations we work with are available year-round, not only during our nights. Numbers, websites and socials in the dedicated section.
See our partners →In an emergency or for follow-up support, here are the contacts we recommend. Worth keeping in your phone.
For OBSESSION and our other large-scale events, we run a reinforced setup with our partner associations and our security teams.
Long before the night, we send regular harm-reduction messages by email, on social media and in our communications: consent reminders, info on chemsex, hydration, testing, and the rules of the night. You arrive informed.
A team of volunteers identifiable by wristband, trained on consent, STIs, substance use and active listening. They're there to answer, redirect, and flag any risky behaviour.
The organising team makes regular sweeps of every area with a torch — checking floors, spotting dangerous objects, and making sure guests are doing OK.
Beyond the awareness team, all volunteers and partner associations are briefed before the night: spotting risk, knowing where to redirect, stepping in at the right moment. Prevention is the whole team's job.
Partner associations (ENIPSE, AIDES, Couvent du Nord, SAFE SPACE+, Spiritek) on site with information on consent, STIs, chemsex and community well-being.
Any abuse or inappropriate or dangerous behaviour is taken seriously from the very first report. The team steps in without waiting for things to escalate: immediate removal where needed, reporting to the authorities, and support for the person affected.
SAFE SPACE: the wristband system
In partnership with SAFE SPACE+ and Couvent du Nord, we hand out coloured wristbands at the door so you can simply and silently express your preferences for physical contact. Always ask for consent before any gesture.
Green : You're OK with physical contact (hugs, hand-holding, etc.). Consent is still required for anything more intimate.
Orange : You're OK with contact but want to be asked every time. Even hugs.
Red : No physical contact wanted, even light. Respect this signal — it's non-negotiable.
Drop us a line or come find us in person at a meet. Every exchange stays confidential.
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